The Illusion of Freewill

In seeing the many events of the past year, murders, tragedies and all that other piddling crap that sags under the dire importance of preventing tragedies and murders, the question I keep coming back to is freewill. In short, I don't believe it exists. Of course, you have to have a malleable definition of freewill. Like if you say, "I have freewill, I'm going to stop reading this blog" well then your definition may be too small and narrow for me to make any headway. However, we should all take the time to examine our choices in life and see where they bring us and most importantly why we made them to begin with. 

Let us say that there's a married couple. Happily married. For about six years. They love each other and worked hard to get where they are. One night, one of them meets someone interesting and provocative. Before you know it there's a used rubber and a hotel bill. They keep the affair a secret and build up their cash back points until the other partner finds out. Tearfully they argue with each other and the unfaithful one professes her love and apologizes. The scorned partner is still upset but forgives and they reconcile. Then the unfaithful one meets another interesting and provocative person. The question here would be why? The answer could be anything. Yet, let us assume that the unfaithful partner really does love their significant other. Why would that happen then? I submit that because there's no such thing as freewill. The unfaithful partner was bound to be unfaithful and the forgiving one was bound to forgive. If not, then they wouldn't have done what they had done. At least in my opinion. 

But I don't think freewill is based on the stars guiding us or some otherworldly force. I believe it's entirely genetic. Why do people have types? Why is it that some people are all around intelligent? Or athletic for that matter? Because we're all born with a skill set and capacities for those skill sets. 

Think about this, where does arousal come from? Whether you like tall, short, skinny, fat, handsome, ugly, tone, bulky, smart or dumb, there are things about people that are arousing. Whether you like to be kissed, caressed, fondled, grabbed, forced, guided, shown or just plain fucked, there are physical touches that you like. So thinking in this manner, all arousal and stimuli are based in the brain. You might say "no shit". But I submit that your arousal by a tall, skinny, ugly, tone and dumb person who kisses, and fondles you is ingrained in your DNA. So at the end of the day, the choices we actually can make are predicated on built in preferences. 

Back to the couple. Maybe before they met the unfaithful spouse was seeing someone. Then the spouse met their partner and despite being with someone, they chose another. Maybe every choice you've ever made is linked to something hardwired in. 

Now, I know what you're thinking, what about people with maternal or paternal issues, people who find partners like their parents and often parents they have issues with. Well, those people are subservient. The parent merely fills the void that their inner desires want and then they project that on prospective mates. 

Even though I talk primarily about sex here, this line of thinking can be applied universally. Though, sex makes the most sense. It's our underlying and primal driving force. It also gets us in the most trouble. Which you may now blame on your genes if you so choose.