Wednesday, July 31, 2013

The Great Moments

In thinking about relationships I have one view, they're all about great moments. People talk about compatibility and things like that, but in reality relationships are either of convenience or, as the best ones are, about making great moments. The end of solid relationships comes from the perceived notion that no more great moments can be made. This can be due to changes in either person or their situation. Some might argue against this, but think about this, breakup sex.

Why would you have sex with someone you were leaving or had already left or vice versa? Because it's a great moment. Because it's what you want out of a relationship. And sex is by far the greatest of great moments. It's close and intimate contact, it's the deepest (PUN CITY USA!) level of human desire that is societal, biological and evolutionary. And relationships are about having these great moments. 

You meet your partner (girlfriend, boyfriend, wife, husband, side piece) and you go do something nice. Dinner, walk on the beach, drinks. Maybe not the side piece. She might get a can of Schlitz and cold pizza. In any event, you try to make a great moment out of it, you try something new at the restaurant, you kiss in the moonlight of the beach, you both get plastered and fondle each other in the cab home. Then sex. Great moment to great moment. That's what relationships are founded on. So often you sit in your underwear waiting for that next moment to happen. 

Vacations, concerts, all sorts of activities are all predicated on great moments for relationships. Because you can do so many things alone. But you do them with a partner to create more great moments.

It's silly to think of relationships as a series of bridges between events, but it makes sense. People do things they hate for people that they care for to get to more great moments. Or they do it to give their other half a great moment. Archery class, country music, parent's house for dinner, all things people suffer through for their partner in the hopes of a reciprocated great moment. Which almost invariably should be sex. And lots of it. Because it's sex. Which we all should love and enjoy. 

Personally, as much as I hate relationships to end, I always have those great moments that I can go back to. And that's how we should view it. Especially the sex. 

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